Getting a girl’s phone number is only the first step in seducing her with text.
To get that girl you need to know when to send your first texts to her and what they should say so you don’t come off too strong and scare her away.
To get her texting back and forth with you and make it so she can’t wait to get a text from you, you need to know how to text her in a way that grabs her attention and gets her excited.
For that girl that you’d love to take out on a date, or show off to your friends at a party, you need to know how to text to get her interested in you and then happy to go out with you.
Now, let’s begin with how to text a girl after getting her number.
WHAT TO SAY IN YOUR FIRST TEXTS TO A GIRL !
What you say to a girl in your first texts to her will create a first impression of you that’s unlikely to change.
So you want to make these interesting, relevant, and intriguing.
Most guys screw things up at this point because their first texts to a girl are generic, typical, and boring. Like “Hi.” or “How’s it going?” or “What’s up?”
This is not going to get the attention or peak the interest of the girl you like. Why?
Because girls respond back to the texts based on 3 important factors:
1. How she feels at the moment.
If she’s feeling optimistic or happy because her day is going well, then she’s more likely to text back whoever is texting her.
But if she’s feeling moody, or her day isn’t going well, or she isn’t feeling very well at the moment, then she’s probably not going to want to text anybody.
2. How she feels about the person texting her.
A girl will almost always text her Mom back right away or anybody else who she’s really close to.
If it’s someone for her work, she’ll text them back. If it’s related to a nail or hair appointment, she’ll definitely text them back.
But for a guy that she met a bar while she was out with her friends, or a guy from school, or a guy who’s a friend of a friend…these don’t usually get her texting back right away.
3. How she feels about what’s being said in the texts themselves.
A girl’s isn’t going to respond to a text that doesn’t make her feel anything.
But if she gets a text that makes her smile or laugh, or grabs her attention and peaks her interest, or gets her horny and excited, then she’s much more likely to text back.
These three factors are important to keep in mind when texting a girl because a big mistake that most guys make when a girl doesn’t him back, is that she’s ignoring him.
And while sometimes this may be true, very often it’s not.
Let’s get back to what you should say in your first texts to a girl, so that she stays interested in you and texts you back.
Your first text to a girl you like should be related to whatever it was that brought you together.
This brings her back to the memory of what she was doing when she met you and the feelings she was experiencing then.
For instance, if you met her at a party, then say something about the party. Ask her if she enjoyed it, or talk about the people that were there, or mention something funny that happened.
Here are some examples of first text messages that you can send to a girl:
“I like that place we all were at at the end of the night. What was it called?”
“I think that bartender was having a few too many himself. What do you think?”
“My coffee only lasted me about an hour this time. Must’ve been thirsty. How about you?”
“So did you end up getting that book you had? What was it called? How to meet a handsome guy at a book store? ;)”
“I love going to the farmer’s market. You never know what you’re gonna find. Today I got kale, chard, broccoli, and a cute girl’s number.”
“Need to study later? I know this quiet spot in the library with a cool view. I’ll share it with you if you promise to keep it to yourself.”
“I’m in the dining hall right now. Not sure what’s good here. You hungry?”
“I think we could both use a break from studying. Want to go see a movie later?”
See how these examples take her back to the frame of mind of where she was when she first met you? That’s what you want to do to get her texting you back.
So however you two met, before texting her for the first time, think about what it was that brought you two together and how to bring it up in a way that is funny and interesting.
Doing this not only reminds her of the fun that she had when she met you, but also subconsciously gets her thinking about doing it again, and this time with you.
10 PRINCIPLES FOR SUCCESSFULLY FLIRTING WITH GIRLS BY TEXT
Below are 10 principles to follow whenever you’re texting a girl you like so you make the most out of every text you send and also so that you don’t screw things up without even knowing why.
1. Learn How To Spell
If you’re always sending texts that contain spelling errors or grammar mistakes, it’s gonna look like you don’t even care enough to double check them before sending them.
2. Be Creative, Unique, and Different
Put some thought into your texts to a girl so that you stand out from everybody else. If you’re gonna say “Hi” or “How are you?”, always add something else.
3. Bring Value To Her Life
Most guys text girls with the intention of how they can get something from her, whether it be her attention, or her time, or her body. Be different. Offer something of value.
4. Keep Them Fun and Lighthearted
Always keep your texts fun, playful and lighthearted. Don’t bring up serious subjects or get into drama with your texts. Save these for in-person conversations.
5. Keep Them Short and Sweet
Keep your texts to only about one or two sentences each. If you write too much, it can make you look desperate. You want her to know that you have a life.
6. Ask Her Questions
Asking questions about her shows that you care about the girl. Keep these simple and relevant to what she’s been doing lately to keep the conversation going.
7. Be Thoughtful and Considerate
If you know that she’s been working all day, ask her if she’s ok to text first. If she say yes, then ask her how her day was and if she would like to go somewhere to relax and unwind. If she says no, then tell her to get some rest and that you’ll talk to her later.
8. Put a Smile On Her Face
If you can get a girl to smile when she reads one of your texts, she’ll respond back to you nearly every time.
9. Always Be Flirting With Her
Remember what your primary goal here. It’s not to text back and forth with her. It’s to get her to be with you at some point in the near future. So always be flirting with her at different points in the conversation.
10. Don’t Be So Readily Available
After you get a girl’s number, wait a little while before texting her. If you’re really excited and can’t wait to text her, then wait a few days. Good things come to those who wait.
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